Kink Your Way

About Me

Coach, Entrepreneur, Educator, and Podcast Host

I'm Leann Herron, a Kink-Aware Professional, Kink Coach, BDSM Coach, Transformation Coach for Women, and Educator. I am the Founder of Finding Resilience with Leann and Kink Your Way, and the Creator and Host of the Happiness On Tap Podcast and the Kink Your Way Podcast.

In my personal life, I am a married collared submissive, married to

In my personal life, I am a married collared submissive, married to my Sir in a monogamous relationship where we embrace our unique kink lifestyle. I have over 11 years of personal experience in the BDSM community.

I'm deeply passionate about sharing my knowledge and experience to help people live unapologetically kinky lives—lives that aren’t just successful, but electrifying and deeply fulfilling.

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Resilience encompasses the capacity to effectively navigate and adjust in the presence of trauma, adversity, challenges, or intense stressors.

Submission serves as both my solace and my calling.

From Curiosity to Calling: How Kink Became My Path to Personal Liberation and Coaching

There’s a moment in everyone’s journey when you realize you

Resilience encompasses the capacity to effectively navigate and adjust in the presence of trauma, adversity, challenges, or intense stressors.

Submission serves as both my solace and my calling.

From Curiosity to Calling: How Kink Became My Path to Personal Liberation and Coaching

There’s a moment in everyone’s journey when you realize you’re not broken. You’re just buried. For me, that moment came with leather cuffs, a blindfold, and a safe word.

Before I ever identified as a kink coach and bdsm coach, I was a seeker. I had been doing the work: inner child healing, trauma recovery, nervous system regulation, spiritual exploration. But something was still missing. I was navigating life from my head, not my body. And then came kink.

Kink entered my life not with a bang (well, maybe eventually!) but with a whisper of curiosity. I had always been intrigued by BDSM, but like many women raised to be “good girls,” I filed it under taboo or maybe later. Later finally came when I realized that the shame I carried about desire, pleasure, and control was keeping me small, silent, and disconnected from my deepest self.

My first real experience with BDSM was life-changing. Not because it was perfect or polished, but because it cracked something open in me. In submission, I found power. In boundaries, I found freedom. In sensation, I found presence. And in communication, I found my voice.

Kink wasn’t just about sex. It was about reclaiming the parts of me I’d buried: the part that wanted, the part that roared, the part that delighted in surrender and demanded trust. It was sacred, healing, and wildly transformative.

As I explored deeper, I discovered the principles at the heart of healthy kink: Safe, Sane, and Consensual. These mirrored the very foundations of trauma recovery and personal growth. Consent, communication, and clear boundaries are not just kink skills. They’re life skills. Kink taught me to know my limits, express my needs, honor my body’s responses, and explore without shame.

Over time, friends and clients began asking questions. How did I get so confident? So embodied? So unapologetic in my desires? That’s when I knew my journey wasn’t just personal. It was meant to be shared.

Becoming a kink coach wasn’t just a career decision. It was a soul calling. I created Kink Your Way and began offering shame-free, trauma-informed coaching to women and couples who were curious, cautious, or craving deeper connection and pleasure.

Today, I coach individuals to awaken their desires, dismantle shame, and discover empowerment through exploration. Kink and BDSM are tools. They are not fixes or trends. They are doorways to healing, embodiment, and radical self-acceptance.

If you’ve ever felt like there’s more to you than what the world sees, you’re right. If you’ve ever felt afraid to explore because of what you were taught to fear, I see you. And if you’re ready to peel back the layers, shed the shame, and reclaim your sensual power, I’m here for that journey.

This path isn’t for everyone. But if it’s whispering to you like it did to me, maybe it’s your time too.

If this resonates with you, trust that inner spark. You don’t have to figure it all out alone. Whether you're brand new to kink or ready to deepen your exploration, I invite you to take the next step in your journey with support, clarity, and compassion.

Book a free 60-minute consultation session where we’ll talk about your desires, your questions, and how kink-informed coaching can help you feel more confident, connected, and empowered. This is a safe space—no shame, no pressure, just real conversation and personalized guidance.

You can also explore the growing collection of resources on my website, including blog posts, podcast episodes, and digital products. These tools are designed to help you awaken the power within and ignite your deepest desires in a way that feels authentic, embodied, and aligned with who you truly are.

You're allowed to want more. You're allowed to feel good. And you're absolutely allowed to be fully, unapologetically you.

Schedule your free session and begin the next chapter of your liberation.

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About Kink Your Way

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Shame-Free. Judgment-Free. Authentically You.

At Kink Your Way, I’ve created a space where personal growth, sexual liberation, and radical self-acceptance come together. As a kink coach, BDSM coach, transformation coach, and educator, I am passionate about guiding individuals on their journey to self-discovery—free from shame, free from judgment.

I believe that exploring your desires, curiosities, and boundaries isn’t something to hide—it’s something to honor. Whether you're just beginning or deeply immersed in alternative lifestyles, I provide compassionate, trauma-aware, and inclusive coaching that supports you in embracing who you truly are.

Through one-on-one coaching, workshops, and my podcast, I offer real-world tools, heart-centered insight, and unwavering support to help you live authentically and connect more deeply—with yourself and others. This isn’t just about kink; it’s about reclaiming your voice, your power, and your pleasure.

At Kink Your Way and Finding Resilience with Leann, I help individuals break free from the societal scripts that keep us small. Because when you are safe to explore, you are free to transform.

Let’s explore your path to pleasure, power, and purpose—together.

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🔑 Core Principles of Kink and BDSM

The key principles of kink and BDSM (Bondage, Discipline, Dominance, Submission, Sadism, and Masochism) are rooted in consent, communication, safety, and mutual respect. These principles form the ethical foundation for healthy, empowering, and pleasurable kink dynamics.

1. Consent

Informed, enthusiastic, and ongoing.
All activities must be agreed upon by everyone involved—freely and without pressure.
Consent can be withdrawn at any time. This is the cornerstone of ethical kink.

2. Communication

Open, honest, and detailed conversations before, during, and after scenes.
Discuss boundaries, desires, hard/soft limits, triggers, aftercare needs, and expectations.
Tools like negotiation checklists and scene planning are common.

3. Safety

Includes both physical and emotional safety.
Knowledge of anatomy, proper use of toys/equipment, and safe words are essential.
Risk-aware practices (such as RACK: Risk-Aware Consensual Kink) or Safe, Sane, and Consensual (SSC) are common guiding frameworks.

4. Respect

Each person’s limits, preferences, and identity are honored.
Power exchange does not mean loss of dignity or rights—it is a consensual role play of authority.

5. Trust

Builds over time through consistency, care, and reliable behavior.
Trust is crucial for exploring vulnerability, power dynamics, and intense emotional or physical experiences.

6. Aftercare

Intentional support and care following a scene.
May involve cuddling, verbal reassurance, hydration, or space—whatever helps participants feel grounded and emotionally safe.

7. Education

Ongoing learning is encouraged to deepen knowledge of techniques, safety, and self-awareness.
Workshops, books, vetted online resources, and coaching help ensure responsible exploration.

8. Authenticity & Self-Expression

Kink can be a pathway to personal liberation, healing, and deeper understanding of your desires and identity.
There is no one "right" way to kink—what matters is what feels right, consensual, and fulfilling to those involved.

About The Use of Safe Words in BDSM

The Use of Safe Words in BDSM and the Principle of Safe, Sane, and Consensual (SSC)

BDSM (Bondage and Discipline, Dominance and Submission, Sadism and Masochism) is a consensual practice that involves a wide range of erotic and power exchange experiences. Contrary to many misconceptions, BDSM is not about abuse or non-consensual harm. At its core, BDSM is built on a foundation of mutual respect, open communication, and informed consent. One of the most vital tools that ensures this foundation is upheld is the use of safe words.

Safe Words: A Vital Communication Tool

Safe words are predetermined words or signals that any participant can use to immediately halt or pause a scene, regardless of their role (dominant or submissive). They serve as a clear and unambiguous way to maintain boundaries and communicate physical or emotional limits during play.

Why Safe Words Matter: In BDSM scenes, especially those that involve role play, pain, restraint, or psychological elements, the participants may be acting out roles that include saying "no" or "stop" as part of the dynamic. A safe word cuts through the ambiguity and is understood to mean genuine withdrawal of consent or the need to check in.
Common Safe Words: Many people use the "traffic light" system:
- Green: All is well, continue.
- Yellow: Slow down or check in.
- Red: Stop immediately.

Participants can also choose their own unique safe words that feel natural and easy to remember under stress.

Nonverbal Safe Signals: In scenes where verbal communication isn't possible (e.g., gagging or sensory deprivation), nonverbal cues like dropping an object or using a hand gesture are essential.

The use of safe words and adherence to SSC principles reflect the seriousness with which the BDSM community approaches consent, communication, and care. Far from being chaotic or harmful, BDSM—when practiced ethically—is a highly structured form of intimacy that prioritizes the physical and emotional safety of all participants.

Whether you're curious or experienced, understanding and honoring these core practices ensures that everyone involved can explore with confidence, trust, and mutual respect.

About Consent in Kink & BDSM

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SSC: Safe, Sane, and Consensual

The philosophy of Safe, Sane, and Consensual (SSC) is one of the most widely accepted ethical frameworks in BDSM communities.

Safe: Activities should be conducted in a way that minimizes risk. This includes using proper equipment, being knowledgeable about techniques, and having a plan in place for emergencies.
Sane: Participants must be in a healthy mental state, able to make informed decisions, and not impaired by substances or coercion. "Sane" also refers to making choices that are within a reasonable risk threshold for those involved.
Consensual: All activities must be fully agreed upon by everyone involved. Consent must be enthusiastic, informed, and revocable at any time. Negotiation before a scene often includes discussing limits, desires, and safe words to ensure everyone is on the same page.

The key principles of consent in kink and BDSM practices are essential for ensuring safety, trust, and mutual enjoyment.

All activities must be agreed upon by everyone involved—freely and without pressure.
Consent can be withdrawn at any time. This is the cornerstone of ethical kink.

Here are some of the most crucial principles:

Explicit Consent: Consent must be clearly and unmistakably given. Both parties should explicitly agree to the activities and boundaries involved.

Informed Consent: All participants should be fully aware of the nature of the activities, any risks involved, and their roles within the scene.

Voluntary Consent: Consent should be given freely without any form of coercion, pressure, manipulation, or influence of intoxicants.

Revocable Consent: Consent can be withdrawn at any time. The use of safe words or signals helps participants communicate when they need to stop activities immediately.

Active Consent: Consent should be an ongoing process, checked and reaffirmed throughout the interaction. Regular check-ins ensure that all parties remain comfortable and willing.

Mutual Respect: Participants should respect each other's boundaries and agreed-upon limits, understanding that consent is a foundational element of the interaction.